Posted by: peebles | May 11, 2011

Job 31:1 (NIV) ~ I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.

I can remember the story of two middle aged men as they walked along the beach front on a hot summer’s day, both in the company of their wives. Just then, two young girls in their twenties walked past, wearing only bikinis and sandals. One of the men then turned to the other male while holding his wife’s hand and said, “Wow, Peter, look at that young girl! Wow, what a body on her, she is really something.”

Now what is that indirectly, but really, saying about his wife? It is saying, “You’re nothing, why can’t you have a body like that? I would rather look at a woman like that all day and think about what I would do with her, than spend time with you.”

The grass is not always greener on the other side. So many relationships are destroyed by men who cannot keep their eyes off other women. For example, the other day when I was walking down the street, I saw a couple I knew walking about ten feet in front of me. As I observed, the man almost dislocated his head as he tried to turn it to follow a young girl in her late teens who was walking on the other side of the road. As I got closer, his wife asked him, “What are you looking at?” He replied, “Oh, nothing dear.” She then glanced across the road and asked him, “Why were you eyeing up that young girl across the street?” He stood there and came out with this pathetic exc2use, “I was only looking; I can look as long as I don’t touch. I was only window shopping. She shook her head at him and said in voice that was filled with hurt and disappointment, “You told me that you loved me and you would never look at another woman, what was that all about?” He tried to laugh it off with a joke by saying, “Yeah, but as long as I don’t go window shopping with any money in my pocket, right?” But the damage was already done. Written all over her face was the hurt and pain of what he had just said and done.

The Bible says in Matthew 5:28 (NIV), “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” So many marriages and relationships encounter problems because men are looking at other woman in a lustful manner. Here in our text for today, Job is saying to his wife Job 31:1 (NIV), “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.” Even though Job had lost almost everything, he did not seek comfort in the arms of another woman.

When you get married, not only do you enter into a marriage covenant with your wife, for she is now your covenant wife, but you also make a covenant with your eyes that you only have eyes for your wife and no one else.

My friend, the Bible says in Proverbs 18:22 (NIV), “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the LORD.” Why throw it all away because your eyes look elsewhere? Why let your eyes wander and look at other women in a lustful manner, when God has given you a beautiful wife and His favour? When was the last time you ever took time to esteem your wife, or tell her how beautiful she is? When was the last time you ever showed her how much you love her, or went out of your way to surprise her with a little gift or, by doing something for her that she did not expect? When was the last time you paid her a compliment, or made her feel good about herself? When was the last time you her how proud you are of her, or how blessed you are to be married to her?

The Bible says in Ephesians 5:25 (KJV), “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” The Bible also says in Colossians 3:19 (MSG), “Husbands, go all out in love for your wives. Don’t take advantage of them.” Do not treat her harshly or embitter her, but treat them with compassion, be respectful towards her, be affectionate, cherish her, always support her and be sympathetic towards her, for she is your covenant wife. Likewise, the same applies to the woman. When a woman marries her husband, she only has eyes for him and treats him in the same way. I believe if we embrace these truths and apply them, then we will enjoy a long a happy marriage.

God bless you my friend, Matthew.


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